How To Develop A Positive Mindset

Every self-help guru will tell you, “Attitude is altitude!” They say things like, “Change your mind and you change your life,” and “Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” They profess that how you think creates your reality. If you want a different reality than you are experiencing right now, you simply have to think differently than you are currently.

This sounds great. Actually, it sounds like you have a miraculous superhero power that allows you to change the course of your destiny whenever you like. Wouldn’t that be great?

If this is true, if simply developing a positive mindset would lead to achieving all of the goals and desires you ever had, then why isn’t everybody happy, healthy, wealthy and both spiritually and emotionally content?

As it turns out, all of the self-help and empowerment gurus know what they are talking about.

Relatively recent research, in the 21st century, shows that optimism actually improves your chances of staying alive and living longer. Using the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory, researchers (Maruta, Colligan, Malinchoc, and Offord, 2000) found that test subjects who were optimistic had fewer health problems, and their risk of early death was much lower than that of pessimistic subjects.

For every 10-point increase in a participant’s score on the optimism side of the scale, the risk of dying an early death decreased by an impressive 19%.

Introduction: Why Positive Thinking Matters (But Can It Be Learned?) 

How important is that? Consider that a middle-aged person of mediocre health who does not smoke is 5% to 10% less likely to die early than someone who does smoke. This means a smoker who adopts a positive, optimistic outlook can more than overcome the risk of early death promoted by his or her smoking.

Research done just a few years later (Schou, Ekeberg, & Ruland, 2005) shows that an optimistic outlook speeds up recovery from disease and illness. Being a positive person boosts sleep quality (Howell et al. 2008), and can even strengthen your immune system, protecting you from contracting chronic diseases (Matthews, Raikkonen, Sutton-Tyrell, & Kuller, 2004).

Other studies have illustrated that seeing the positive side of any situation can improve your strength and fitness, lower your risk for developing neurological disorders like Parkinson’s disease and Alzheimer’s, and even improve poor vision. When test subjects are given a placebo such as a sugar pill, and are told that the pill produces some positive life change, many people actually do receive the purported benefits. This speaks to the incredible power of your mind to create a specific brain chemistry and drive real physiological and lifestyle changes.

Are you just out of luck if you are not a positive thinker? Fortunately, that is not the case.

The research shows that if you are not a positive thinker, as soon as you develop a positive mindset, your immune system and physiological makeup changes immediately. Your body begins to become healthier as well as your mind, the minute you decide you are going to take a positive approach towards any event or situation.

In this short report we will show you exactly how positive thinking can change your life. You will also understand how your mindset, whether negative or positive, works with the Law of Attraction to attract like a magnet all of the things and outcomes which are aligned with your mindset – if you have a positive outlook, positive things are more likely to happen, and if you constantly see the negative side of any situation, negative health and an unfulfilling life are attracted to you instead.

You will learn how to use affirmations and affformations to rewire your brain, and put it to work to deliver the reality you desire. You will discover that the “Monkey Mind” which is constantly carrying on a silent conversation should be ignored most of the time. You will come to an understanding of how to use conscious self-talk to get the things you want out of life, as well as to avoid excessive worry and deal with negative people.

Let’s get started with an in-depth look at exactly how “what you think” creates change in your life. 

How Positive Thinking Can Change Your Life

Self-help guru and life coach Tony Robbins was not always in charge of his life. There was a time when he failed to achieve anything he wanted, watched his goals slip through his fingers time and again, and couldn’t understand how some people seemed to take life by the horns and get everything they wanted. He went to self-empowerment seminars and read every book on the subject. He tried again and again to figure out “how life works”, and how he could develop the reality and the destiny he longed to experience.

He is famous for saying that after years of struggling, like so many of us do, one night he had a revelation. He was staying in an apartment at the time with meager possessions and very little money. His personal relationships were nothing to brag about, and he saw all of this in a very clear light. He says he did something that took a split second to make happen. Instead of seeing negativity around him, Robbins said he made a conscious decision to change his mind.

Unlike others that will tell you change is gradual, the world-renowned self-improvement teacher believes it is instantaneous. He says that when he made that conscious decision to develop a positive outlook rather than a negative one, his entire life began to change for the better, in a split second.

This is the power of positive thinking.

As we discussed in the introduction, there is plenty of science that shows us what happens when you develop a positive outlook. Let’s take a crash course on how the brain works, so you can understand the “how” of changing your mind to change your life. 

How Thoughts Can Change Your Brain

The Huffington Post is one of the most-read blogs in the world. In March of 2016 they published a wonderful post titled “How Your Thoughts Change Your Brain, Cells and Genes”. It shows exactly how your thoughts “sculpt” your brain, and actually program your cells. (You can find that informative blog post here .

Simply thinking about something causes the release of neurotransmitters by your brain. These can be considered as messengers that carry messages from your brain through your nervous system to all of your many body parts and processes. So the way you think actually changes how your body works.

If you take a negative approach to a situation, stress hormones like cortisol are increased. When you think positively, cortisol levels drop and you feel happy and confident rather than stressed, anxious and depressed. As pointed out in the Huffington Post…

“A sizable body of research exploring the nature of consciousness, carried on for more than 30 years in prestigious scientific institutions around the world, shows that thoughts are capable of affecting everything from the simplest machines to the most complex living beings. This evidence suggests that human thoughts and intentions are an actual physical “something” with astonishing power to change our world. Every thought we have is a tangible energy with the power to transform. A thought is not only a thing; a thought is a thing that influences other things.”

You probably have noticed that when you feel good physically, you also feel upbeat and positive mentally. The opposite also occurs. Develop a positive mindset, look on the right side of things, and you will notice you feel better physically. Studies show that thinking positively most of the time leads to a lifestyle that promotes physical health.

Your mind and your body are intertwined.

Start thinking better and you will be healthier. As you become healthier, you begin to think more positively. A wonderful cycle of great mental and physical health begins. What is amazing about the power of positive thinking is the research referred to by the Huffington Post. Not only can optimistic thoughts create physical and mental health in your mind and body, but they can actually work on your environment, and transform every aspect of it to help you achieve goals and realize dreams. 

Positive Thinking & the Law of Attraction

Have you heard of the Law of Attraction? Commonly referred to as LOA, this law can be simplified by saying you’ll attract the things and outcomes in your life that you predominantly think about. Think negatively all the time, and negative experiences will surround you. Positive thinking brings positive experiences, people and objects into your life.

In the previous section you learned that science as proven that your thoughts have power. They go out into your environment and actually change situations, circumstances and events. What an amazing piece of knowledge this is. All you have to do is start thinking positively more frequently, and you will experience upbeat, positive, beneficial realities.

Scientific proof of the existence of LOA is no longer argued. How it works is not understood, but it does work. You are going to attract the things you think about most of the time, so why not think about positive outcomes instead of negative ones? You are constantly creating your destiny with every thought you have. Doesn’t it just makes sense to develop a positive, optimistic mindset that will draw you ever nearer day by day to the goals and outcomes which are positively important to you?

The Law of Attraction has been around forever. It simply works. Start positively directing your thoughts, your behaviors will head in that direction, and you will begin to see positive outcomes more frequently. 

Changing How You Talk to Yourself

Your self-talk could be sabotaging your efforts to be the person you want to be. Self-talk is the conversation you have with yourself. You probably have noticed a “Monkey Mind” chatter going on all the time. This is the silent voice that never seems to shut up. It is attached to your survival instinct, but isn’t as important to pay attention to now as it was when human beings were first created.

In a very stressful environment, your cave-dwelling predecessors were constantly processing data. Their minds had to be going a mile a minute, studying their surroundings and environment for any threat to their survival, and those threats were plentiful.

In modern times, most people do not experience threats to their survival very frequently. However, you still have the same Monkey Mind which is constantly chattering, trying to get your attention, and in many cases this is simply your brain processing information. Just because this unconscious self-talk happens does not mean you have to listen, or that it would even be the smartest course of action to listen.

Conscious Self-Talk

Conscious self-talk is often verbal. You talk to yourself out loud. You say things like, “I am such an idiot,” or “I can do this! I am going to ace this test/job interview.” Even when your conscious self-talk is silent, you are giving your mind a set of marching orders. Express negative beliefs which mirror a negative mindset and the Law of Attraction combines with neurotransmitters to practically guarantee a negative outcome.

The same is true with positive self-talk. What is really neat is that science has found you can benefit from positive self-talk even when you are unsure about yourself. In other words, if you are anxious or concerned about a particular situation, giving yourself a positive “pep talk” automatically improves the chances of a good outcome. 

How to Use Positive Affirmations and Afformations

One way to harness the reality-creating power of self-talk is to use affirmations. An affirmation is a positive statement you repeat to yourself, one that you place in the present tense. You can use affirmations several times a day to support a positive outlook, and over time, you begin to unconsciously approach every situation or event with a positive mindset.

Affirmations can be viewed as statements said with confidence about a perceived truth or reality.

Try this. Write out a list of what you have always seen as your negative qualities. These may include criticisms others make about you. This list could include things you were told as a child, or something negative your employer told you in your last review. Don’t take the time to try and judge if they are accurate or not. Simply write them down.

Now write an affirmation that is on the positive rather than negative side of those self-judgments. If you are constantly teased about being obese, you may tell yourself, “I feel and look great. I am using smart nutrition habits and exercise daily, and getting closer and closer to a healthy body weight.” Simply saying this affirmation several times a day begins to automatically program your brain to create the behaviors that support the affirmative statement you made.

What Are Afformations?

An afformation is a standard affirmation that is made even more powerful. Your subconscious mind is naturally designed to answer questions. Turn your affirmative statement into a question, and you instantly put your subconscious onto the job of answering that question. Then you can move through your conscious thoughts and your normal daily routine, and all the while your subconscious is leading you in the direction that will answer the question you gave it.

An affirmation my say, “I am attractive and good-looking.” Turn it into an afformation and you would say, “Why am I so attractive and good-looking?” Your mind begins to look for the answer all around you. This subconsciously leads you to behaviors which reveal exactly what makes you attractive and good-looking, and the exposure to these influences delivers the good-looking result you intended.

The key with afformations is not to answer the question consciously. Let your subconscious do the work. Just make the afformation out loud, as you would with an affirmation, and let the power of your subconscious go to work for you, heading you to the result you intend. 

How to Believe in Yourself

Do you remember earlier when you learned how life coach Tony Robbins changed his entire life in an instant? That is the power you have inside you right now. When you believe in yourself, truly unlimited possibilities are achievable. This may be difficult to believe if you have suffered from self-doubt, and especially if you have had a parent, family member or friend constantly berate you and make you question your abilities.

One great way to improve self-belief is to take baby steps. Find some activity which you would like to be better at, and instead of plunging headfirst into that activity, take small steps out of your comfort zone. Tell yourself it’s okay to fail. Failure has led to the most significant and wonderful discoveries in human history.

If you never fail it means you aren’t trying. And if you don’t try, you can’t realize new behaviors and realities which create the destiny you have always dreamed of.

Make a list of your positive qualities. Feel proud about them. Consciously think about the things you are good at, and you will feel your self-image becoming more attractive. This is because confidence and self-belief tends to spread. When you are confident about your ability to do something in one area of your life, it improves your overall self-image, and boosts a positive belief system.

Another way to foster positive belief in yourself is to spend time with those people that care about you. It is easier to feel good about yourself, when those around you love who you are. Stop doubting yourself. Have faith in your ability to do anything, reinforce positive behaviors and abilities, surround yourself with those people who love who you are and are positive thinkers, and you can boost your self image and self-esteem.

How to Avoid Excessive Worry

Do you worry a lot? Do you even know if your level of worry and stress is irregular or very normal? When worry begins to interfere with your normal daily functions, it’s a problem. This is a time to slow down and reconnect with reality, taking a look at what is happening in your life “right now”.

When you catch yourself worrying constantly, literally slow down. Whatever you are doing or thinking, you can continue that action or mindset, but slow down the process. Practice the deep breathing techniques we will show you in the last section of this positive thinking report. Look at the situation as if you were an objective observer. Is your worry consistent with what is actually going on, or are you blowing something out of proportion?

As you slow down what you are doing, put into practice the following habits proven to keep you from worrying too much, and when it is not the appropriate response.

Remember that most of the things you worry about never end up happening. You stress and stress and stress over something, and it never occurs, but the mental and physical health problems that stress created still have to be dealt with.

Stop being a mind-reader. Your worry could be happening because you are trying to predict what someone else is thinking about you, about how you look, about how you talk, or about some other characteristic. You will find that in most situations this worry is pointless, because most of the time people are not thinking about you in the way that you believe they are.

When worry leads to a scattered brain, simply shout, “Stop!” Then tell yourself out loud that you will think through the situation which is worrying you at a later time, when you are better prepared to deal with it.

Accept the fact that people probably are not thinking about you most of the time. We tend to worry too much about what others think. This ties in with the tip mentioned earlier. If you are worrying about what other people think, you are adding unneeded stress and anxiety to your life.

Exercise. Strenuous physical activity is a proven stress-reliever, and often puts your worry in the proper light.

There is a Swedish proverb which states that, “Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow.” Don’t let worry over-shadow your life. If you worry and stress out to the extent that your normal, day-to-day routine is affected negatively, practice the tips just listed to get a healthy and realistic outlook on the situation. 

Dealing with Negative People

Emotional vampires can suck the physical, mental and spiritual energy out of your life. Whenever possible, a total removal of constantly negative people from your life is the best exercise. An even better response is to replace that “Negative Nancy” or “Downer Dan” with a positive person.

In some situations though, you don’t have the power to remove a negative person from your life. You may have a coworker or supervisor who is extremely negative, and brings down everyone around them. However, you may not be able to change the situation. In this case, there are a few things you can do to minimize the impact of that negative person on your life.

When you know you are going to be exposed to this person, think positively. Tell yourself that this is a great opportunity to use your positive mindset to help that person see the world like you do. Pay that person a complement. Tell them that you like the suit they are wearing or mention a positive trait that person has. If you can’t change the environment, you can work to change the outlook of the negative person you’re forced to spend time with.

You should also take a minute to consider that this negative person may have a very difficult life. Developing a sympathetic and compassionate mindset immediately minimizes the impact of someone who is thinking negatively. Finally, if a negative person in your life values your opinion, talk to them about the problem. Show them how negative thinking destroys so many areas of their life, and how a positive mindset leads to so many benefits.

Self-Care and Relaxation Techniques

In a previous section you discovered how a healthy body creates a healthy mind. A healthy, positive outlook also leads to physical health, and this wonderfully healthy cycle makes you feel better in mind, body and spirit. Simply put, when you “take care of yourself”, there are limitless mind and body benefits.

You can do this using proven relaxation techniques like meditation. If you have never meditated before, and envision incense, chanting and Indian mysticism, get those thoughts out of your mind. All you need is a calm, quiet environment and a conscious effort to clear your thoughts and you can benefit from meditation as well.

Meditation has been proven to improve physical health while reducing or totally eliminating mental stress and anxiety. Those who meditate frequently run a much lower risk of developing heart disease, cancer and becoming overweight or obese. Just about every mental and physical health metric can be impacted positively by meditation.

Eat the Right Way

There are certain foods which promote a healthy body and relaxed state of mind. There are also those which do the exact opposite. Processed foods, refined sugar and table salt are damaging to your digestive process and overall health. Cut back on them drastically, and begin eating more fresh, whole fruits and vegetables. Fruits and vegetables are “real food”, while many of the processed fast foods and products found at your grocer hardly qualify as food, and can do massive damage to your body.

Stay Hydrated

When you get 1 gallon of water into your body each day, all of the complex physiological processes which go on in your mind and body function properly. This means you should be drinking lots of water throughout the day. While you do receive water in some of the food you eat, you don’t get enough into your body to forgo drinking water regularly. A hydrated body experiences less physical stress and mental anxiety than if you don’t drink plenty of water.

Cardio Plus Strength Training

Activities that raise your heart rate provide cardiovascular benefits. Strength training, lifting or moving weights which are heavy enough to stress your muscles, burns calories and fat and builds long, lean muscles that promotes strength and physical health. You should be enjoying both cardiovascular and strength training exercises regularly. This means 3 to 5 sessions of cardiovascular or aerobic exercises each week.


You should also be strength training with free weights, or body weight training, 3 days each week. Don’t believe the old myth that if you lift a small weight for a high number of repetitions that you will develop a lean, toned look. You want to focus on weights that are heavy enough that you can only lift them 8 to 12 times, and for 3 sets. This means your strength training sessions only last about 15 to 20 minutes. However, the benefits are massive, and have been linked to mental as well as physical health.

Deep Breathing

There are breathing exercises you can practice which literally strip stress from your body. When you breathe deeply and fully, expanding your diaphragm, your central nervous system “talks” to your brain, commanding it to calm and relax your entire body. The brain sends neurotransmitters mentioned earlier to every part of your body, and you begin to de-stress.

This process releases physical and mental tension and stress, which is why breathing exercises often accompany a meditation practice. Relax your shoulders and place one hand on your chest, the other on your stomach. Inhale through your nose deeply for 2 to 4 seconds. Hold that breath for a moment before releasing through your mouth, as if you were trying to blow out candles on a birthday cake. Repeat several times as needed.

Spend Time with People Who Smile a Lot

The many debilitating effects of negative people were mentioned earlier. One of the simplest ways to take care of yourself, practicing self-care and limiting harmful stress and anxiety, is to remove negative people from your life. When you are around influences that can bring you down, it sometimes happens unconsciously. You may not want to develop a negative outlook, and you may be a very positive person. Unfortunately, environment has a major influence on human beings and how they act and respond.

This means that you may find yourself developing a negative mindset more frequently, especially when you limit your exposure to positive people, and spend most of your time with negative friends and family members. Generally speaking, people that smile a lot have lower levels of stress, and are more likely to have a positive outlook than those with a permanent scowl on their face.










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